Celebrating Life Over 50 in the Puget Sound Region and Beyond

Do You Need a Friend?

Library Corner

November 29, 2022 at 6:38 p.m.

...by Wendy Pender

Wendy Pender, KCLS Older Adults Program Coordinator

If the pandemic taught us anything, it’s that we all need a buddy in life. Someone who understands you, who doesn’t judge, who supports and uplifts you, and maybe even provides a different perspective. I find those people every day at my local library. All the authors, performers, directors, characters – it’s truly a cocoon of lifelong friends and I am grateful.

I was volunteering at the York Public Library in Pennsylvania in 1993, sorting books for a book sale when I realized I was surrounded by 100,000 of my favorite people, a veritable treasure trove! I entered graduate school the following fall to pursue a library career, and decades later I continue to meet new friends every day.

Who do you need in your life right now? Do you need a friend, who can assure you you’re not alone? Do you need inspiration, someone to light the way? Do you need someone to understand your tears without judgment? Do you need somewhere to vent your despair about climate change? Do you need someone to help you laugh and see the lighter side? We have all these “friends” at the library. Let me introduce you to some of mine!

When I’m lonely: I love immersing myself in quirky villages like Jan Karon’s Mitford series and Jenny Colgan’s Mure series. Part of my heart is always longing for some nameless “home,” and these books help me feel as though it might actually exist, and I belong there.

When I need inspiration: Biographies of all sorts – Elton John’s ME; In Such Good Company by Carol Burnett; Ray & Joan: The Man Who Made the McDonald’s Fortune and the Woman Who Gave It All Away (by the fascinating entrepreneur who changed the way America eats and his philanthropic wife); and RBG (Ruth Bader Ginsburg), about the woman who fought to change the way justice is administered in the U.S.

Someone who understands my tears: Megan Devine, It’s OK That You’re Not OK and Maria Kliavkoff, Healthy Mourning, Happy Loving.

Someone who helps me with my climate-change despair: The Future Earth: A Radical Vision for What’s Possible in the Age of Warming by Eric Holthaus.

Someone who helps me laugh when the world is too much: Allie Brosh for the win! Try her Hyperbole and a Half: Unfortunate Situations, Flawed Coping Mechanisms, Mayhem, and Other Things That Happened. Or for all of us who’ve struggled with technology (who hasn’t?) there’s Damn You, Autocorrect! Awesomely Embarrassing Text Messages You Didn’t Mean to Send.

And then of course, there’s absorbing mysteries, histories and fantastical worlds to simply “take us away!”

The library has all kinds of formats, too. You don’t have to “read” to take advantage – just push “play” and enjoy a wonderful audiobook story while your hands are busy with other things, or when you’re just trying to turn off your mind from fretting about the day. You can stream movies via Kanopy (like a free Netflix) or download music via Hoopla (similar to Pandora or Spotify). And we have people to help. Come into your local library or call Ask KCLS, 425-462-9600.

Some of my best friends are at the library – I bet yours will be too!

Wendy Pender, Older Adults Program Coordinator, King County Library System